The Pastor I Want to Be

This morning I came across Philippians 2:19-30, and came to see it as an example of the type of pastor I wish I was and should strive to be.

In these verses, Paul speaks of Timothy and Epaphroditus and the encouragement they have been to him. Before looking at what he said about these two men let’s remember the situation Paul was in as he wrote these things.

They encouraged him in ministry. Only those who are well outside the loop believe ministry is an easy course. These men encouraged him in his imprisonment. Paul had been imprisoned for the gospel, in a world where prisons were especially brutal. They encouraged him as he faced the likelihood of execution. Paul speaks of his survival as a fifty-fifty shot.

This is the most amazing thing about this passage. Paul wanted the Philippians to experience the encouragement of these men so much that he was willing to send them, rather than to keep them close, serving himself.

So what does Paul say about these men?

First thing I notice is that Timothy is described of having the interest of others, from the perspective of Jesus Christ.

The opposite of this is to seek your own interests.  This is a constant challenge for a pastor or minister of any type. Just yesterday I sat with a missionary who spoke of the difficulty of speaking on God’s behalf without allowing the message to decompose into personal tirades at the people we love, because of our private, and often frustrating, knowledge of their sins.

Another challenge of seeking the interests of your congregation is that they don’t really know what is in their own best interest.  They too have a way of making their self-interests selfish instead of Christ-centered. So, in order to avoid telling people what they want to hear, you have to temper your message constantly with a deep connection to Christ.  This is the only way that you will know His best interests for your hearers.

The last thing I want to mention about this maintaining the interests of those you serve, is that it helps to have a support system outside of the circle of your own congregation.  Often others can see things in us we have carefully hidden from ourselves.  An honest friend will tell you what you need to hear to allow you the opportunity to improve. Every Paul needs a Timothy and every Timothy needs a Paul.

Second, Paul speaks of Timothy as a person of proven character.

Proving anything takes time. Proving character takes a lifetime. Timothy was not spoken of as someone whom Paul just met and had a good feeling about, but instead as someone that had served alongside Paul for an extended time.

Proving leadership has a trait in it that many people miss.  One of the ways that you become a good leader is by being a good follower. Paul’s leadership over Timothy helped bring out Timothy’s abilities in that area. Leaders who cannot follow, at least in my opinion, also cannot lead. Remember job one for any leader is to follow Christ.

Character is not weighed on scales, so that as long as more half their characteristics are good, they are a good men. Character is not a litmus test, meaning that when a strong majority of their characteristics are pure they are a good person.  Character is on the gold standard.  If it is not 100% pure then it is still in need of refinement. All of us are still in the process, but don’t use that as an excuse to change out to any other standard than Christ.

Finally, Paul speaks of Epaphroditus as a man who was willing to sacrifice all.

The first sacrifice was being willing to live broken-hearted for the people he served.  The passage describes it as longing for the Philippians, and indeed, leaving behind those you love is one sacrifice most face in ministry.  But the sacrifice of a broken heart comes in many other ways too. Everything from watching people drown in their sin to burying your beloved members break your heart.

He also was willing to walk the line of public scrutiny and shame.  I say this because prisons in that time and place were difficult to survive. Paul most likely would not have made it through if Epaphroditus was not bringing him food, water, medicines and encouragement.  But bringing these things to Paul meant he was willingly associating himself with the crimes the Roman overlords assumed Paul was guilty of.

Finally, Epaphroditus almost died from illness while performing these ministries. This was the context in which Paul said we should hold men like Epaphroditus in high esteem. Are we as willing to risk everything for the gospel?  We live in such comfort today that it is hard to tell. But if you are not willing to make the many smaller sacrifices included in ministry, you are not training yourself to be ready to make the ultimate sacrifice if, or maybe when, the time comes.





Riding a Tiger

Last week I mentioned I was going to use Politics Monday to talk about church politics at times.  Let me repeat a post I have put up in the past about what it means to be a church leader.

Being a pastor is a lot like riding a tiger. You can sit up there and proudly tell yourself you are in control. But you must always remember, job one is don’t get eaten. I am aware this thought can be taken as a negative bit of cynicism, but bear with me while I flesh out some details.

First this analogy will help you to always remember the church is a living and breathing thing. Together you will not make progress unless you and it find some form of cooperation. If you decide to lord your authority over it with a fierce domination, then sooner or later it will show you what fierce is. The fact is you only hold whatever authority over a tiger, which it allows you to have.

Second I want you to be careful how dearly you hold to the idea your church loves you. It might eventually learn to love you, and it might not. But if it does happen, it will take longer than you think. Your church will only love you if they have first learned to respect you. They will only learn to respect you after you have proven they can trust you. Trust is earned, respect is built, but love only comes by the free will of the giver. Even after respect is solidly in place you cannot make them love you. Nor should it be your goal, you are not there to be adored, but to lead them to adore their Savior.

Third I want you to realize, if you get eaten by the tiger, the tiger will also be harmed greatly. Just as a captive animal that kills will have to be put down, the church which has eaten a pastor is always a horrible mess. They dishonor their Lord, do great harm to the kingdom, and become known by their injuries. But it is not their responsibility to prevent eating pastors, it’s the pastor’s job to not get eaten. When the rider blames the tiger he is not doing either of them any good, and when the pastor blames the church he is setting aside his calling to be the leader.

Before I quit, I should acknowledge the many other people who used riding the tiger as a teaching allegory. There are at least two books by this title, a blog and where I first heard it was as a descriptive of what it is like to be president of the United States. So the idea is not original, but very useful.